Surprise visit

Well I got a knock on the door.  When I opened the door I had a surprise visit.  It was Master Daddy and I just saw him several days ago.  He came last night and will be here for a few days to spend time with.  Its going to be awesome.  Tonight I am taking him out to one of the restaurants that I enjoy in the town and then a few drinks, so please don't call me I will be busy.

StudBear is back doing shows

Its a rainy day

Hello everybody ,
I tell ya, these days the winter weather has been crazy.  This is December and there isn't any snow.  We did get some last week but the past couple of days has been warmer.   Its raining so on a rainy day like today what else can Master StudBear do but shopping!  I really do not like shopping on rainy days but I have to get a few gifts and I'm thankful that this is it.  Its all done.  A few gifts for some slaves which I am sure they all will enjoy it.  I'm sure they will take special care of their new gifts.


Happy Holidays!
StudBear

Special session

I enjoyed very much yesterday's session because it happened to be one of my favorite type of sessions along with one of my favorite type of slave.  This slave was sent to me since he was disobedient to other men and his other nasty habits.  He really did deserve some hard disciplining.

I decided to start with a warm up using my black leather driving gloves. Then on to the handcuffs, then the leather strap.  In all he suffered a full 90 minutes of spanking and hardcore disciplining and at the end he was really screaming for mercy.  He did confessed that he really enjoyed it. Of course I did as well giving him what he deserved.  But then I am so cruel.

Appreciation

I would like to take this opportunity for the wonderful emails that I got.  I am speechless.  I had a wonderful time with friends at my place drinking and having a good chat.  It was so much fun.  Enjoyed it very much that they ended up crashing at my place.  This morning we had a great breakfast which one volunteered to cook for all of us. He always seems to cook breakfast when he spends the night at my place which is okay because he is pretty good at his cooking.

Birthday

Its my bday tomorrow but celebrating it today and thank you for the calls that has been waiting for me when I got home from work.  5 wonderful phone calls.  It is very much appreciated.  Some beautiful emails too.  My plans for today or should I say evening would be something simple.  Stay home and relax with some Jameson whiskey and jaggermeister for shots.  I will be having some friends over as well. I did want to have a special night just to relax at home and not have to do anything with anybody, so got something to drink, which is some Guinness and jaggermeister for shots and had a quiet evening.  I do have some friends coming over later on tonight which would be nice.

Been swamped

Okay okay bitches, I had gotten some emails about where I hav been.  NO, I haven't dropped off the face of the earth.  I know you guys have been missing me.  And I had gotten some special gifts from some of you.  Thank you.  I want to say thank you for those who sent out gifts for me which I deserve.  I just had been swamped for the past couple of months doing some traveling and working now that I'm back home I have to concentrate on Christmas holidays.

Physical Therapist friend

I had a physical therapist come over who happens to be a good friend of mine and we hung out for a while.  He even ended up spending dinner.  That was really nice.  He has such a wonderful body and was trying to get him out of his clothes but he never showed me them.  I did show him my workout equipment.  Its been a while since he came over so I was so happy to see him.  Maybe some day he could come over to workout with me.  

Spoil me!

You must give me what I want.  You want my attention and you want to please me to give me what my heart desires.  Well I you worthless bastards, StudBear loves to be spoiled, pampered, and worshipped.  My question to you is:    "Do you think you have what it takes to spoil me and survive Financial Domination?

This is where it all begins, and if I approve of the way you have been spoiling me I may allow you to spend quality time with me while you take me shopping, traveling, or even dining at the finest restaurant of my choice throughout the US.  And yes you would have to pay my air fare too if I chose outside of the state.  So, start proving to me that you are worthy.

DO NOT ask to do my dishes, mop my floors, my laundry, or even scrub my toilet.  That is the duty of a house boy and if I wanted a house boy, I will announce it.

I'm a Money Hungry StudBear

I truly believe I was placed on this Earth to be spoiled. There are not too many things in this world that actually please Me.  So, if your looking to "please" your Master StudBear, I can assure you that there are very few things you as a slave can do to make Me happy.

Before I list them you must understand that in no way whatsoever will this list of things please Me fully.  Never will they replace any commands, or directions that I have requested from you.

These are simply just extra things you may do to show dedication, in hopes of someday succeeding in fulfilling My Ultimate desires.


Read on:

Money, sending it frequently and in large quantities.

Presents, My suggestion, At very least One every 2-3 days.

Representation, For instance, Sending Me embarrassing pictures of yourself. *note- Not all pictures need your disgusting oily face in it*

Remember I don't like a cheap fuckers, especially not one of My slaves.

So if your feeling like your bank account is slowly being drained by Me, just keep this in mind,

I don't Give a Flying Fucking Shit.

Get a second job.

Rob a bank

Suck some dick

Just whatever you decide to do, be sure and tell Me so I have just another reason to laugh in your inadequate face.

going out Stop talking that BLAHBLAHBLAH

This is Friday night and My Boys and I are going out to a fucking club!  so My suggestion to you...

Provide Us with even more of your cash to prove to Me that you truly support StudBear and what he wants.
That is all that matters after all right?

Prove it scum sucking pig rodent.
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Surprised gift

Well I had a surprise gift that came to my door today from one of my boys.  This is what appreciation gets to you.  He knows I like to crochet and I could use more yarn.  The more yarn the better.  The second I got it I gave him a call and thanked him for the nice gift.  

Who is your Master

Here is some basic information which you need to know about Studbear. I was born in beautiful country in Ireland. Because I like change I moved to USA by the Millennium year. I enjoy lifestyle, beaches and nature.

I still remember my first slave and it has absolutely changed my life. I have realized that this is my life and I was born to dominate and be the Master. I love who I am because I am a man and Master should lead society in future. I’m sure we will. Now it’s just the beginning.  Masters will be only tool for making the money, tool for being served, and for endless pleasure. Your wallets will be drained also like your balls after couple of months locked in chastity cage. You’ll be screaming, yelling and moaning for orgasm for a months and then after cruel training you finally stop think about your little penis and only focus will be how to be a good slave, how to serve and please me well and of course how to make more money to drown me in luxury.  I am your Master and I simply deserve to be treated like a God. I am one of the natural-born Gods wouldn’t be ever satisfied with one slave. I want more, I want your money, I want your attention, I want to see how humiliated you can be while you serve me and hand me over content of your wallet. I want you to do whatever I say and wish, if you pay off my attention of course.

You might be one very lucky you please me with special gifts and pay my attention well you can become my money slave forever, all your pathetic life you’ll be thinking about me and empty your wallet for my pleasure and luxury.

Messages

I must be really popular, I came home yesterday from the airport and received 53 messages.  Family and friends knew I was away, but most of the messages were from slaves.  I had a few from the same slave telling me how much he misses me and can't wait to see me again.  I tell ya, my slaves must really miss me.  I have to make meet ups with each one.  I am in such a great mood that I may treat them this time.  I really enjoyed myself in Ireland.

I do suggest Ireland if you like to go on a trip somewhere.  Its such a beautiful country.

I'm flying back home

I am typing this while being on the plane for my return to go home.  If you have been keeping up with my twitter, you will notice that I am just returning home from Ireland.  I was there for I was there for 10 fun days.  It was really nice.  I would recommend Ireland to anyone.  Such a beautiful country.  Gathered some of the lads that I know and we traveled from Belfast to Dublin, down to Dingle (oh I did get to see the red shack where The Cranberries used to rehearsed their music), then up to Galway, and back up to Northern Ireland to Donegal and Co. Antrim and also stopped over at Derry.

The lads were surprised and happy to see me that they had to take the time off just for me.  I thought it was awesome.  Two of them actually asked me would I ever reconsider returning to Ireland.  I told them to be honest its in the thought process.  Not sure though.  It would be great to travel around again.  I haven't done it for a while.  Its a thought right now.  Could I put this into reality?  Of course I could, afterall, I am the StudBear.

Steps before contacting me

Before you contact me be sure you read everything about me and you have clarified what I expect. There are steps which you have to accomplish before you contact me.

Get to know everything about me without contacting me. Read everything what is on my website, follow me on Twitter and my blog.  Oh Facebook should be coming soon.  Not sure when but you will know if you have been keeping up with my blogs and website.  You must learn and follow my rules.

Do you wanna get my attention? I think, now you know what to do, if you are just a little bit zsmart. So send me a tribute, it could be money (which I prefer) or gift(s). Even a small gift can make me happy as long as it’s constant. Follow my wish list and find out what I want. You can try to surprise me with something else that isn’t on my wish list. But before you afford something like this, be sure you know me and your surprise won’t be disappointment! You don’t want to disappoint me, you wanna to serve me well. Let me know that you wanna please me and serve me that I am your main priority.

Fill out slave application, answer all the question. Insert your own paragraph of introduction. Remember, be honest and a gentleman.

Sign up

After you sent me gift or money and read everything about me, you can contact me. Write me letter or poem of your admiration and send it to me without expecting anything in return. If your letter or poem interests me I’ll answer you.

All the time when you communicate with me you have to be very polite and humble.

If you are not sure I’m the right Master for you, guess what. It’s not my problem. I don’t have to prove myself to you, it’s your job! You can find out who I am about from my website.

Jock slave

I Just received a call from a guy who is a baseball jock, heard about me, and gave me a call.  It turned out he was into being a slave.  He was very sexy looking too, nice build.   I had such a lovely time with him that when the night was over, he took out his wallet and gave me $50.00 and a quick kiss on my lips thanking me for such a nice time by calling me Master.  I gave him my contact number so if he wishes to call.  I do have a feeling we do plan on getting together.

PayPal Problems

Well I just discovered there is something wrong with my paypal account.  I can't seem to get it to work properly.  I am wondering if I should just close it open a new paypal account.  Its not allowing my debit card to go through.  I have to think about this one.  Maybe I could fix it somehow.  I've gotten some slaves telling me they are having problems sending me money.  So going to see what is wrong.

A day in the park

One of my Slaves and I had a great time together today in the park. Since the park was unusally crowded today we did not get to play like we normally do. Normally I would take my Slave for a walk around the park on his leash but today he could only wear his collar for me. He did have my take top so anyone could see my beefy body if they cared to look.

Just sitting on the park bench with my Slave in the nice cool breeze holding each other and talking made me feel wonderful. It is amazing how great he feels just to be in my arms and taste my kisses over and over.

Muscle Dinner

Wow it was such a great dinner last night with Chris, the muscle guy I met in the coffee shop yesterday.

I did get some nice red wine and wanted to make it really nice for the guy.  I had made some Filet Mignon and it was with Mushroom-Wine Sauce.  Along with that was some yams and some rice, and of course some salad to go with it.

We were having such a great time together that we ended up having a little too much wine that we both became flirty.  He ended up spending the night and it was so nice to be in his big muscled arms.  It was a time i would never forget.

Great Saturday

One day I was walking to the coffee shop.  I needed some caffiene.  So I was waiting on line.  A customer came in and it was a nice muscle guy wearing a tight tank top.  He had such big shoulders and nice sized arms.  He was pretty sexy too.  I stared at him at every angle because he didn't have a bad  side. He kept smiling over at me.

It was my turn to order and it was interesting that the muscle guy insisted he would pay for my order.  So I let him and then introduced to myself by my name.  He returned the greeting.  We both didn't have anything planned but sit down and enjoyed our coffee.  We ended up sitting down and talking having such a wonderful conversation.   We exchanged phone numbers as I told him if he would like he could come over to my place and have some dinner.

It was such a great day for me and glad that I met a new friend.

Buy me things off my wishlist

Slaves have bene buying me things off my wishlist so I updated it with more stuff that I want.  Get to work you pathetic slaves and make your Master StudBear happy.  You will be rewarded with cam time.  don't even message me and ask me what I want if its on the list just get it.

Are you ready to kneel naked before StudBear?

  You would need to bend forward to kiss my boot?  Are you ready to be owned by me body and soul? Are you ready to be sexually used for a my pleasure? if any of those answers were yes then let me know.

Tease & Denial

That's right, tonight, after the last caller, I got another call from a slave that I usually dominate, but instead decides to buy my yahoo ID. He just wanted to serve his Hot Master StudBear before his bed time. Of course, he's a worshiper. Being as though, I must take all the worshipers that I can get who has not been online since last week. At any rate, I denied this white pig slave 4 times to shoot and his balls were so full of cum that they were blue and he was screaming in pain because he really wanted to shoot, and finally I made him cum all over himself like a good little white pig slave with a small cock lusting over such a Hot Master like myself. That's what he deserves. He's not even worthy of it to be honest.

I Wanna Get To Know You So Take My Number

This guy was so charming, yet so persistent, yet so full of shit. LOL. What does that mean? Well, I'll tell you what it means. It means that, he was very nice to talk to (something I really enjoy), but wanted to do this "mutual" thing. We all know how I get about this crap. He's looking for a "regular" and I'm looking to provide a service. Although we had a great 20 minute conversation, the whole time, he was basically telling me that he knew my type, I'm that type that don't like men, and like boy slaves only (boy was he wrong!).  Another thing he said was that usually people like me grow up in a very deprived situation (because that's how he grew up... wrong again!).   And on top of that I was a hustler and I needed to come down to earth, take his phone number and basically forget about the fact that he's calling my hotline, we should just keep it friendly (or excuse me "regular".)

All of these things would fine, well and dandy except for the fact that he's wrong on all counts and why even bother calling a line just to try and get something you know that you're not going to get.  Now don't get me wrong, the whole time he was a gentlemen, but at the same time, he was making rude remarks all in the same. Good thing I am who I am and know how to handle things like this in an appropriate manner (of course when it's not too out of control, then I'd have to break out the curses and screen shots...lol), because this actually turned out to be an easy conversation for me and once again, I didn't have to take off one stitch of clothing.

Back to the situation at hand, these rude (actually insecure) remarks consist of
1. "You don't like men, I know you're type"
2. "Usually when you're a sex consumerist that means you're deprived as a child and grew up in a dysfunctional family."
3. "I know you're just going through the motions, you can be yourself if you want." (Keep in mind, we were talking about the swine flu at this point in time...lol)

Perhaps maybe these things aren't too bad, and some will say that I'm taking it wrong, there's a difference between wanting to get to know someone and talking to them like you already now them. I think he was just alittle insecure. He kept mentioning to me "I get cock in person, it's nothing, but...", or "I'm just bored, I want someone to talk to, don't get me wrong, I'm cute, hot, and sexy, I just want to talk to your fine self before I go to bed", or the one that I actually called him on..."  I just want a regular someone I can talk to and get off with and as soon as I told him that he could always call me back and we could do whatever he liked, he says, "Yea, but I don't wanna do that with you."  I mean, c'mon dude, why else would you want me to talk to you then? LOL. When are these guys going to learn the words, "mutual" and "friends" and all that aren't going to do anything but mess up the relationship you've accumulated with the provider you meet.

Many times men are the worst and can be assholes when it comes to contact us for entertainment.  We are here as Masters for a purpose.  To please you all.  The next thing you know, they really try to impose on our lives. Please, don't get me wrong, I'm 100% flattered and I like to fulfill fantasies but you're going to have to pay to keep that going, it's like an arcade. I'm sorry to put it that way, but, I think alot of guys out there call whether it's escorts or whichever and what not and try to take it to this so-called "mutual" level and then don't understand when we look at them like they are crazy.  lol. It's still so funny to me.

The only thing this guy has is that fact that he was talking his bullshit over the phone, lol! But yea, like I said, this guy was charming, not charming enough to make me call his cell number, but charming enough for me to be able to handle his call in a down-to-earth, yet professional manner in which I like to do with everyone. Hopefully he calls back because I really did enjoy the experience and I know he enjoyed mine because he stated so. And let the calls keep coming in!

Your Daddy Fetish

Ever look at your father's dick and think , "Mmm, that look so good, but I can't touch."?
Sounds kind of twisted and demented doesn't it? Yea, I know. But try telling that to a caller that wants to look at your cock and lust over it while confessing to you that they look at your cock they reminds you of Daddy's.
This is something like the Daddy-son, only more arousing and overpowering to the trainee.
This is exactly what I long for in a call. Outlandish, yet exciting...Taboo. It's great! I know more of you out there think this way. Not because you actually think this way, but because you want a little kink and spice in your relationship with your co-masturbator or your companion. And as you know, there's almost nothing that I'll stop at to help you make your Experience the best one you've ever had. It turns me on and keeps me on the phone more and more when you come to me, feeling nothing but that ultimate trust to let yourself go and put everything you've got into the hands of a true Master God like myself. If this is you, and I know it is... you might as well just pay your confessions now and receive the discipline of lusting so deeply and sinfully.

Tribute: $25

My cash slave’s money did not appear in the PO box that he pays for yesterday like he said it would. So, I made him send more money to make up for it.  Disobedient fagslave.  He will not do that again, if he does it would be less in his account and more in mine.  His choice.

All The Single Men!!!

Mmm, I'm in the mood for a nice single man. I want a nice chocolate sugar muscle man to come and talk to me.
It's been a while since I've had an intimate moment with a man. If this is you, hit me up...anytime. I wanna talk to you.
I'm waiting...

Fantasy which will never be fulfilled

Dude, are you serious? let me tell you something, time and time again, I have to keep going through this freebie bullshit with these guys, over and over and over. Why is it? You know, I honestly believe that he didn't want any freebies, he just wanted to be proven that the am was going to be good, but I don't think he was focusing his eyes in the cam because it's always bright over here and I'm always giving hot shows! WTF man!

At any rate, he did have a hot fantasy. Just too bad he was being bit of a moron and not playing it out with me. Oh, what's his fantasy, you say?

For me to be in the club, drunk, he walks in the bathroom, I walk behind him, follows him in the bathroom, rips his tank top off and while he’s urinating, I am fucking him non-stop while he’s drunk bent over the toilet.

Say whatever you want, but I think that's a little on the creative side. As a matter of fact, might be a little too creative...

Kink in New York

Time is of the essence when you travel. When your in my shoes time is all you have and it flies by with the blink of eye. So in New York I made good use of my time and did a very, very, naughty beat down. It was two-on-one, all-man, kink.  I promise it was well worth it.  In fact, sometime I even scare myself, ’cause I’m just a fucken Stud! Don’t let the sweet smile fool ya.

Lowsy Loyal Servants

This is a StudBear Financial Domination Corporation Service Announcement

All Slaves, Servants and pathetic boys
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A lot of you have been falsely claiming your desire to serve me and I've been paying very close attention to this.
I've held a Charity for the whole month of march and you sick pigs haven't donated enough to show your loyalty to me. All of you are on restriction. No nothing. You will be ignored and that's just the way it goes.
To the Spoil Line you go! Now!!!

Naughty Master

It’s wonderful being adored, loved, and even feared. That feeling when I look right into your pathetic little soul and know just what your thinking.

I may be barking orders or seducing with with my eyes and touch, so I decided to allow one of my favorite slaves to entertain me. How you ask? By doing exactly what Master Studbear adores and wants, with a little ass worship to get the party started.

Timewasting faggots

A faggot wrote to me yesterday, asking if he could be my fag slave. I demanded a tribute to prove his worthiness. Then the faggot proceeded to waste my time, telling me that I’m not “worth it.”

Go fuck yourself, fag slave. My time is worth more than you can imagine.

Back to West Coast Californian Masters

It would be great to see the guys again.  These Master friends are so great to hang out with that I contributed $$$ to helpng them out from time to time.  This is what we do for each other, we help each other out when we are in need.   I got them in a conference call and we made a decision to meet each other in Portland Oregon.  This will be our quick get away for the weekend.  Now I have to book flight and book for hotel out there for a few days.

Faggot pays up!

This loser fag has been known for being a fake but it paid what it owed today! So I'm giving it special fuckin recognition in my blog! But if this fucker promises shit and disappears again, I'm outing it as a fuckin FAKE. Keep an eye on whether or not this faggot keeps its promises and stays loyal.

Slaves Pay Attention

The Commander of Chief Master Studbear is accepting new slaves into his stable, maybe a few more who are in-need of working as slaves.  Studbear needs more slaves to make his life more simple.  HE sells piss, used condoms, worn socks, worn underwear and cam-shows for you. HE waits every slave to tribute (even if you have to take 10 dollars out of your mother´s wallet... the important thing is: TO SHOW MY RESPECT FOR THIS ALPHA.

Visting Connecticut Mar 5-8

Yes boys, faggots, bitches, slaves, sub’s, worshipers and anything else inbetwen. I will be making my way down to some time with in the week so if your interested in serving or being served message me.  Do you think you think you got what it takes?

Slave question to Studbear

Sir, would you allow me to pay for your lunch? or even take me to the nearest ATM so that I could use my card, sir?

Well, it is a possibility.  But, I would rather you drop off cash at My building, though.

Leaving your master

Now you have overcome your addiction, it's time to leave your Master.  The best way to do this is politely and respectfully with no abuse, insults or negativity.  Tell him you are wanting to focus on your career, or something like that.  Your Master will understand, unless he's some kind of evil fucken psycho asshole lol.

Can money buy happiness?

Of course, as long as you are a financial slave, you will always be happy giving it to Studbear Financial Domination Corporation, will put your money in good use.

Spanking…Seriously???

So he has been thinking about spanking a lot lately, egh?  Well I could sort that out. He told he never would have thought he'd like being spanked. Before Master Studbear he thought of it as degrading and humiliating. But that was before Master Studbear.

He still don’t like being spanked. But he craves it. He crave the release he feels. He craves the feeling of forgiveness for whatever transgressions that have occurred. he crave the release of guilt for faults (real or imagined) spanking gives me. He crave the closeness he feel with Master Studbear when I spank him.Studbear spanks. He cries. I sooth. He feels peace.

The (I don’t want to say intelligent, because above all I’m not stupid) but the other part of his brain, isn’t sure how to feel or what to think about this. It keeps telling him he's a grown man and he shouldn’t put up with, much less want, to be spanked. He thinks he has decided to tell that part.   He doesn’t know anything!

He will continue to offer his backside to Master Studbear to spank at will. Hopefully sooner rather than later.

Shopping spree

Yes I did it again, I took a slave's cash from his wallet, he had $200.00 and went shopping.   I took off his clothes butt naked and handcuffed him to my metal headboard of my bed.   I told him to behave while I am gone.  I even took his car for traveling to save gasoline for my vehicle.  I ended up getting myself a pair of workout gloves and a workout bench.  When I got home, he was asleep.  He looked ever so peacefully on his side.  I walked over to him and gave him one big spank and told him to wake up and have work for him, which was assembling the bench.  He was about to put his clothes on but I told him to keep them off.

He's actually assembling the bench right now as I am typing this.

Be My Valentine....You fucken wish

Well you all know that Feb 14th is the day of "LOVE".   Well I say you’re supposed to LOVE ME 365 days a year – not just on this FUCKING DAY!!!! Come on, are you serious one day HELL NO!!!! I say that on this day, Valentine’s Day, you’re supposed to pull out all the gifts, cologne, MONEY, and whatever comes to mind.  I will also take flowers.  So if you’re not pulling out all the stops then it’s time to do a reality check and ask yourself how much do you love me.

Valentine's Day Gift

I had a great gift that came through my PO Box from one of my slaves.  It was a really nice gift and thoughtful of him to do that for me.  Thank you!

Seeking past of the sex

Many seems to be attracted to the lifestyle initially because of the sexual aspect. Some submissives crave being taken and used sexually. Simultaneously, many Masters love the idea of having one at His complete disposal. To have someone obey His every sexual whim is something that is appealing to a Master. However, if there is anyone who is involved in this for any length of time will and should know know there is a great deal more to the lifestyle than that.

I meet many who claim to have the desire of being a 24/7 slave. The tendency is for them to focus on the sexual aspect. They love the idea of being "taken" at any time while used as a complete pleasure toy. Serving their Master for His pleasure is their goal. However, many fail to visualize past the sex part.

What does being a 24/7 entail? Sexual submission is certainly part of it. However, there are many more aspects which one should consider. While many will talk about pleasure versus domestic slaves, in reality, they tend to be one in the same. Some will take sex slaves periodically. Yet, this is usually not under the 24/7 category. A slave is used however a Master chooses. There are times where He seeks pleasure while wanting His domestic affairs attended to.

When one is looking at the 24/7 lifestyle, one must consider what it is like to be a domestic slave. A slave's time is spent more on satisfying her Master in that area than is spent in sexual activities. Are you one who desires to spend your evenings after work cooking, cleaning, and other tedious tasks. Those with the "homemaking" mentality will not have a problem with this. Some who have a more wild spirit might resist this change.

Another thing to consider is doing without your Master's attention. Many fail to understand that once one submits, he is without any rights. Ponder how big a statement that is. If a Master elects to focus His attention on other areas of His life, that is how it will be. Can you accept waiting at home for Him while He is out? Are you one who cannot live without the constant contact of your Master? This might be a real possibility.

I write this without the intention of trying to dissuade anyone from entering the M/s world. Yet I feel it necessary that one goes into this with a full awareness of what life could be like. The polyanna attitude will only work for so long. Ensuring that a M/s relationship survives requires effort, work, and realistic expectations. Knowing oneself while understand how you will react in certain situations helps to prepare one for what occurs.

Punishment or Discipline

Today I had to punish a slave for lying and getting off track.  I mean, this punishment took most of the afternoon and it made the day suck.  I tried to be loving with him afterwards, not sexually but to let him know that I do love him and just want him to be correct. He seemed mad but I understood his attitude.

No matter how we phrase it, punishment or discipline, it's the same and it still sucks, but I have to be consistent with the rules we have agreed to, because this punishment is a long one, 3 days.

More about trust

A slave friend of mine met up with a new Master recently. He seemed to understand him, things went well, he was respectful of him and seemed not to make assumptions or press too hard at first.  But on their first morning after the night before a little thing got in the way. It was so small. It was only a display of affection rejected hurtfully. Both were stubborn and did not back down.

He knew that slaves are supposed to back down I suppose.  But he didn't.

There was an email exchange to try to resolve it. In it he demanded him trust.  He instructed him to trust him.  Otherwise how could he be his Master?

He was right that he could not be his Master without there being trust. I mean, "Trust" is central to such relationships. Where I believe he was wrong was in believing that he could just demand it.

Real trust has to be earned over a long period. You cannot just demand that someone trust you and for that trust to be real rather than a pretense.

He could no longer trust him.  So he is sensibly now getting to know a different Master.

Married

I have a couple of slave friends whose partners cannot understand their needs. One of them would love his partner to spank him but, having the laudable attitude that violence is wrong, he just cannot bring himself to do it.

Both of these slaves have struggled with how to satisfy their own needs whilst maintaining their relationship with their partners.  One of them just recently gotten married.  So many blessings to him and his husband. Both of these slaves found some satisfaction with internet relationships. But they both crave real relationships too. One may have embarked on an affair - which could be likely to put his marriage at risk for the future.  The other I think has at times been sorely tempted. For now though he has put online Masters to one side - but he feels a big gap in his life.

There are many of us who dream of the happy relationships that some of the readers of this blog enjoy.

Kiss My ASS cause it looks soo good

Today was one of those fucking days where everything just clicked…How so, well there wasn't any traffic on my way to the gym, got to the gym and no Fucking IDIOTS was there slacking off and MotherFuckers want to know how come they can’t make progress. After I was done the trash man finally placed the trash can where it should be, I had a few appointments today and despite the fact they were all losers they didn't get on my nerves and when I came home my scheduled domestic even looked cute in his outfit and told him grab the camera and take A SNAP SHOT.. life is sweet and this slave is even sweeter.

Trust

I had bumped into a Mistress and we went to Starbucks to have a discussion.  We had a really good convo about trust and how important it is in any relationship - but most especially in a D/s relationship.

It is so hard to build. It takes honesty and openness from both sides. Once built it is very precious. However it is also very fragile.

It just slipped from my fingers for a moment (and this happens to everybody too) when I wasn't holding it carefully enough. It is so easy to damage. I hope it is just cracked and can be mended with care and effort. I promise to try hard to do so. I will be desolate if it is broken.

A gift from Pigwhore

Hello my slaves and Happy New Year,

Wow it slipped my mind what I did for Christmas and tell you slaves.  I want to give a shout to one special slave who calls himself Pigwhore, who joined my circle of slaves just about a year ago and I tell ya he has made me very proud of him and had behaved himself for 2013 that during the Christmas holiday season I treated him out to dinner and he expressed how grateful he was that while waiting for our dinner, I told him to come over to me and sit on my lap.  People in the restaurant was staring but I didn't give a fuck.  He wrapped his hand around me with smiles.  I told him that I treated him out this special day because he has been really good and well behaved.  He thanked me.  I demanded him to give me a kiss.  So he pecked my cheek.  I then told him to go back to his seat.

Well I had a surprise gift that came through the door yesterday (New Years Eve) and it read Pigwhore as returned address.  That placed a smile on my face when I opened up to see the package and discovered a pair of handcuffs.  It was very sweet for  Pigwhore to send me these cuffs so I could be to use them on him.

Thank you thank you thank you Pigwhore.  You placed a smile on my face for a good start for 2014.