Punishment or Discipline

Today I had to punish a slave for lying and getting off track.  I mean, this punishment took most of the afternoon and it made the day suck.  I tried to be loving with him afterwards, not sexually but to let him know that I do love him and just want him to be correct. He seemed mad but I understood his attitude.

No matter how we phrase it, punishment or discipline, it's the same and it still sucks, but I have to be consistent with the rules we have agreed to, because this punishment is a long one, 3 days.

More about trust

A slave friend of mine met up with a new Master recently. He seemed to understand him, things went well, he was respectful of him and seemed not to make assumptions or press too hard at first.  But on their first morning after the night before a little thing got in the way. It was so small. It was only a display of affection rejected hurtfully. Both were stubborn and did not back down.

He knew that slaves are supposed to back down I suppose.  But he didn't.

There was an email exchange to try to resolve it. In it he demanded him trust.  He instructed him to trust him.  Otherwise how could he be his Master?

He was right that he could not be his Master without there being trust. I mean, "Trust" is central to such relationships. Where I believe he was wrong was in believing that he could just demand it.

Real trust has to be earned over a long period. You cannot just demand that someone trust you and for that trust to be real rather than a pretense.

He could no longer trust him.  So he is sensibly now getting to know a different Master.

Married

I have a couple of slave friends whose partners cannot understand their needs. One of them would love his partner to spank him but, having the laudable attitude that violence is wrong, he just cannot bring himself to do it.

Both of these slaves have struggled with how to satisfy their own needs whilst maintaining their relationship with their partners.  One of them just recently gotten married.  So many blessings to him and his husband. Both of these slaves found some satisfaction with internet relationships. But they both crave real relationships too. One may have embarked on an affair - which could be likely to put his marriage at risk for the future.  The other I think has at times been sorely tempted. For now though he has put online Masters to one side - but he feels a big gap in his life.

There are many of us who dream of the happy relationships that some of the readers of this blog enjoy.

Kiss My ASS cause it looks soo good

Today was one of those fucking days where everything just clicked…How so, well there wasn't any traffic on my way to the gym, got to the gym and no Fucking IDIOTS was there slacking off and MotherFuckers want to know how come they can’t make progress. After I was done the trash man finally placed the trash can where it should be, I had a few appointments today and despite the fact they were all losers they didn't get on my nerves and when I came home my scheduled domestic even looked cute in his outfit and told him grab the camera and take A SNAP SHOT.. life is sweet and this slave is even sweeter.

Trust

I had bumped into a Mistress and we went to Starbucks to have a discussion.  We had a really good convo about trust and how important it is in any relationship - but most especially in a D/s relationship.

It is so hard to build. It takes honesty and openness from both sides. Once built it is very precious. However it is also very fragile.

It just slipped from my fingers for a moment (and this happens to everybody too) when I wasn't holding it carefully enough. It is so easy to damage. I hope it is just cracked and can be mended with care and effort. I promise to try hard to do so. I will be desolate if it is broken.

A gift from Pigwhore

Hello my slaves and Happy New Year,

Wow it slipped my mind what I did for Christmas and tell you slaves.  I want to give a shout to one special slave who calls himself Pigwhore, who joined my circle of slaves just about a year ago and I tell ya he has made me very proud of him and had behaved himself for 2013 that during the Christmas holiday season I treated him out to dinner and he expressed how grateful he was that while waiting for our dinner, I told him to come over to me and sit on my lap.  People in the restaurant was staring but I didn't give a fuck.  He wrapped his hand around me with smiles.  I told him that I treated him out this special day because he has been really good and well behaved.  He thanked me.  I demanded him to give me a kiss.  So he pecked my cheek.  I then told him to go back to his seat.

Well I had a surprise gift that came through the door yesterday (New Years Eve) and it read Pigwhore as returned address.  That placed a smile on my face when I opened up to see the package and discovered a pair of handcuffs.  It was very sweet for  Pigwhore to send me these cuffs so I could be to use them on him.

Thank you thank you thank you Pigwhore.  You placed a smile on my face for a good start for 2014.